I have been continuing to make jewelry and crochet (though did that less while it was so warm). I am getting much better at my wire wrapping and have made a lot of friends through the facebook community that are both jewlery makers and people who craft beads. I've learned a lot and been inspired by so many of them. I had not suspected that the community would be so welcoming, but it is, and a lot of the petty squabbling you would expect between people who are basically selling similar items is not there for the most part. There is a great group, called Color Combo Challenge, (look up CCC in search on facebook) and they have been amazing. Every week we select colors, then by the end of the week we all post up pictures of what we made using those colors. There are advanced artisans as well as beginners in there and everyone is really helpful!
My fibromyalgia has been having it's typical ups and downs, but overall I am feeling a bit better since I started trigger point injections in my spine and my calves. The injections are a long acting drug that is similar to lidocaine, called Marcaine. It doesn't make me goofy, but it numbs up those big knots long enough for them to release (about 18 hours), so I am having far fewer problems with my shoulders, arms, hands and legs. I can start to feel it wearing off by week 3, and then I am eligible to have them again in week 4. Really the biggest problem I am having is insomnia and the lack of sleep from that. I find myself dropping off to sleep instantly in odd places and positions with no warning. I just don't feel sleepy and WHAM! I am out cold. We're still working on that. I get to see a new doctor for that at the end of this month and I hope he has some ideas or answers.
As to the family problems, we had some issues with our oldest daughter being emotionally abused over the last couple of years. It got steadily worse until finally we had to leave (that's why we moved) to get away from the abuse. Some of my husband's family got very angry with me for stating that it had happened publicly, without naming who the abuser was. In a nutshell, between the fibromyalgia problems and that issue they decided that I must be insane. Meanwhile, my 9 year old was put in the middle when all of them elected not to show up for her birthday for various reasons. I VERY unoffensively asked on facebook to reschedule it so my daughter would not be crushed, but they turned that into a huge fight, attacking me and my skills to mother my child in front of about 300+ people on my facebook page, and then as a group defriended me. From that point on most of them elected not to speak to me at all. Then in September I tried to get the person who had done the smallest amount of attacking to apologize for her actions, and I was told that me, my 2 daughters and my husband were no longer part of the family.
Normally, I would tell ANYONE who did that to go take a long hike off of a short pier and drive on with my life, but since my husband and daughter loves them, I tried very hard to mend fences. I apologized 3 times for things I didn't even really do, and was told my apologies were not good enough, meanwhile none of them have apologized at all to date. I am at the point where no more apologies will be forthcoming from me. My husband feels the same way. This makes things awkward since we used to have 30+ person family functions but now we will no longer be doing that. Christmas this year will be interesting (though much cheaper!).
We attended our first (tense) event with all of the family who has been nasty to us present tonight and managed to get through it without bloodshed. We ignored them and vice versa, but my daughter was still hurt when they came in the door and all of her cousins had been told not to play with her. That was fixed and things were ok, but I don't see us being in close proximity again soon until someone gets married. The reason we all got together tonight was to congratulate my brother in law on his engagement!! :)
So anyway, my point of telling this long story was to talk about the ways in which fibromyalgia can effect our lives. They decided that since I have to take non-opiate drugs and have a sleep disorder that I am a terrible mom and am insane. When I did what the National Fibromyalgia Association recommends, which is to write a letter and explain my disabilities, the entire family ignored it, and some of it labeled it my "Manifesto to Justify My Actions" as if I am the unabomber for saying publicly that my kid is being abused so it will STOP. I am not sure if that happens a lot as well in families where abuse becomes an issue, where the rest of the family gangs up on the parent who leaps in to stop it, but I suspect that might be the case. Of course the stress and crazinesss and disrespect from the family highly aggravated the fibro for a few weeks there, but I did lose about 10 pounds! ;)
My daughter is doing much better now that she is in a safer place and talking to a counselor. She even has friends that live all around her here and after school this house becomes the romping ground of 3 to 4 kids. She's never had that before and needs it. She's having some challenges at school because she's hearing impaired and 2 of her teachers are not well educated about how to work with a hearing impaired kid. Plus, after what she's been through this fall she's very prickly and could give a damn about what an adult says if she feels they are out of line. This is not great for a 9 year old because it gets her in trouble and makes it harder for her teacher to gauge how to deal with her. I am trying to be patient, and let her heal and let her know that we love her, no matter what.
On the business side things have been pretty good! My fan page on facebook is up to nearly 550 and I am getting regular sales from both my ebay and etsy shops which pay for my supplies and a bit more. I have been working my tail off trying to get ready to do my first craft show in December. I've never done one before but think it would be neat. It's a good way to get my feet wet and see if I can earn a little bit of money to spend on my family this christmas. I am enjoying the jewelry making and will be learning soldering and chain mail jewelry in December. After that I may do some stained glass classes with whatever else tickles my fancy thrown in. I am very interested in lampworking beads, but have not found a good place/time for a class, plus I am not equipped here to do it, though I have some great role models!
Here are some pictures of my recent work:
Sea Gifts
Swirls and Dots
Some of these are still up for sale in my etsy shop which is at http://www.etsy.com/shop/WindscryDesigns
To all of my followers, I am sorry it's been so long snce I posted, but as you can see we had some issues to work out and a lot of unpacking to do. I love our glorious new house. I had wanted a garden and this one came with about 20 fully mature rose bushes ringing a fountain. I have saved and dried many of the petals for making sachets and will be selling those along with ones made from lavender I start in my greenhouse this winter.
Farewell for now, and hopefully it won't be so long until I post again!
Your sickness is apparent in how easily you lie through your teeth. You are the one who told your child "You are not allowed to speak to them ever again" and she is the one who sobbed to everyone else, begging them not to tell you that she'd spoken with anyone "because my mom will be so angry at me". Your family loves you, but you need help.
ReplyDeleteI am not lying about any of this,and published your rude comment to show my readers just how vicious you are, whoever you are. My child was told to stay away from the family until this gets worked out by her THERAPIST, not me, since being told in big bold letters by her uncle that her and her mother, father and 1 year old sister were being DISOWNED for asking for an apology from a family member for telling people on my facebook page they had no right to comment or defend me on my own page.
ReplyDeleteMy child has been told this is temporary, until someone in that part of the family grows some balls and apologizes.
Funnily enough the person I approached for apology was such a coward that rather than answer a single email, she whipped the whole family into a frenzy over it and would not answer even the simplest of questions. she ran and hid behind her daddy rather than discuss any of the very simple issue. SO in a nutshell it is HER and HER DADDY's fault that it has escalated this far.
My daughter is sobbing due to the hurt you and your family have caused because none of you will get down off of your high horse long enough to apologize, yet I have apologized numerous times for things I shouldn't even have to apologize for. I have been vilified because none of you take responsibility for your actions. You are all FAR from innocent in this. Someday when you figure out that responsibility goes both ways, maybe you'll get it.
As to my medical issues. I tried to explain them to the family and was told later, in writing that my medical information explaining how sick I am and why was a "Manifesto to Justify My actions". This is so completely insulting and far from the object of that letter that I can pretty see beyond a doubt that NONE of you understand my medical problems because you are too busy being angry to read what I send you, especially the part where I apologized for embarrassing you for finally having to make public the fact that my child was being abused in order to get it to STOP. I should not have to apologize for that, but I did. Did any of you ask how she's doing? Nope. Did some of you tell her she's making up lies and it's all in her head? Yes. Pretty sick eh? I think you guys are the ones who need some help.
Oh, and one last thing, an apology is an apology. You have chosen not to accept at least 3, so don't dump it all on me. Grow a spine.